/// 2/26/2010 01:37:00 AM
today i feel so emotional...lie on bed and got alot thing in mind..so suddenly...
rewind on alot thing happen..last time...keep on rewind and tear really flow down...dont know why..
i think of all the stupid mistake i make and how i wish time can turn back...haha i know it cant...haha
I wish I could see myself from someone else's point of view.stand at their view and think how they think about me? haha comfirm very bad ler...
so random find some thing about Forgive and Forget...
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Step 1
Talk
it Out: Most of us claim that we will forgive and forget when we have
been wronged in one way or another. But it is never as easy as it
seems. So if you have been wronged and you are feeling personally
violated from this event then perhaps you need to address the issue
squarely where it lies. Once you have thought through all your problems
with said person or event then you need to sit down and calmly let them
have it! You need to yell, you need to cuss, you need to get every last
thing off your chest so that you can finally say to yourself that you
have said all you need to say on the matter in question.
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Step 2
Keep
It to Yourself: After having your rage session the idea will be
squarely back in your frontal lobes and you will suddenly feel the urge
to bring this issue up at otherwise inappropriate times. If this is
your partner, whenever their good friends or relatives are around; out
at dinner; in the car. While these may seem like completely logical
times to berate someone you care about, this attitude is forgetting the
whole deal (forgive and forget) in the first place. Also, brining up an
otherwise private matter in public places with random strangers or with
close friends is a pretty bad idea, if for no other reason than because
no one else knows about it.
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Step 3
Yell
at Yourself: While the constant urge may strike you to yell and yell
and blame yea who wronged, it should be remembered that there had to
have been an underlying impetus, a first instinct, a major issue at
play here. So rather than turning it around and dealing with the
incident, why don't you look a little closer at your own involvement in
the event from the get go. Once you have taken responsibility for your
role in the event, then and only then will you be able to forgive. Next
time you are in that same situation, you would do wise to not forget.
A random POST TODAY!=)
Amanda♥