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FRUSTRATION?!?!?!?WHY? /// 4/28/2010 09:02:00 PM

Frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related to anger and disappointment, it arises from the perceived resistance to the fulfillment of individual will. The greater the obstruction, and the greater the will, the more the frustration is likely to be. Causes of frustration may be internal or external. In people, internal frustration may arise from challenges in fulfilling personal goals and desires, instinctual drives and needs, or dealing with perceived deficiencies, such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Conflict can also be an internal source of frustration; when one has competing goals that interfere with one another, it can create cognitive dissonance. External causes of frustration involve conditions outside an individual, such as a blocked road or a difficult task. While coping with frustration, some individuals may engage in passive-aggressive behavior, making it difficult to identify the original cause(s) of their frustration, as the responses are indirect. A more direct, and common response, is a propensity towards aggression.[1] Contents * 1 Causes * 2 Symptoms * 3 Examples * 4 References [edit] Causes To the individual experiencing frustration, the emotion is usually attributed to external factors which are beyond their control. Although mild frustration due to internal factors (e.g. laziness, lack of effort) is often a positive force (inspiring motivation), it is more often than not a perceived uncontrolled problem that instigates more severe, and perhaps pathological, frustration. An individual suffering from pathological frustration will often feel powerless to change the situation they are in, leading to frustration and, if left uncontrolled, further anger. Frustration can be a result of blocking motivated behavior. An individual may react in several different ways. He/She may respond with rational problem-solving methods to overcome the barrier. Failing in this, he/she may become frustrated and behave irrationally. An example of blockage of motivational energy would be the case of a worker who wants time off to go fishing but is denied permission by his/her supervisor. Another example would be the executive who wants a promotion but finds he/she lacks certain qualifications. If, in these cases, an appeal to reason does not succeed in reducing the barrier or in developing some reasonable alternative approach, the frustrated individual may resort to less adaptive methods of trying to reach the goal. He/She may, for example, attack the barrier physically or verbally or both. [edit] Symptoms Frustration can be considered a problem-response behavior, and can have a number of effects, depending on the mental health of the individual. In positive cases, this frustration will build until a level that is too great for the individual to contend with, and thus produce action directed at solving the inherent problem. In negative cases, however, the individual may perceive the source of frustration to be outside of their control, and thus the frustration will continue to build, leading eventually to further problematic behavior (e.g. violent reaction). Stubborn refusal to respond to new conditions affecting the goal, such as removal or modification of the barrier, sometimes occurs. As pointed out by Brown, severe punishment may cause individuals to continue nonadaptive behavior blindly: “Either it may have an effect opposite to that of reward and as such, discourage the repetition of the act, or, by functioning as a frustrating agent, it may lead to fixation and the other symptoms of frustration as well. It follows that punishment is a dangerous tool, since it often has effects which are entirely the opposite of those desired” [2]. [edit] Examples This section may contain original research. Please improve it by verifying the claims made and adding references. Statements consisting only of original research may be removed. More details may be available on the talk page. (November 2009) The worker who is refused time off to go fishing may "cuss out" his supervisor to his face or behind his back. If he is sufficiently aroused, he may strike out at him with his fists or with the nearest weapon. If the supervisor is not present or the worker's fear of the consequences of direct attack is stronger than his desire to attack, he may transfer his aggression to someone or something else. Taking his frustration out on his family or on some object like his car or his equipment are typical ways of transferring aggression. Another "solution" to frustration is regressive behavior — becoming childish or reverting to earlier and more primitive ways of coping with the goal barrier. Throwing a temper tantrum, bursting into tears, or sulking are examples of regression. Wearing a long face and a worried look are other signs of this method of dealing with frustration. I NOW KNOW WHY I SO FRUSTRATED COZ OF ALL THIS BIT BY BIT! HAIZ!-.-

BAD TERRIBLE DAY FOR ME! /// 4/27/2010 07:08:00 PM

end up,i undelete my blog...just fEEL like typing sth ...it get so hard now...i not like what i am now..!at first, i delete this blog coz i want to forget everything but it end up i keep alot of thing in my heart. i dont know what on earth happen! after grandma passed away...bad thing seem to occur! haiz........ i miss my ah ma!!!wanna to treasure my family but found out sth that is quite sad. At home, everyone is sick! haiz! why nowaday i so frustrated ? when i at sch, i see who also get very frustrated! i see this and that.i just felt so haiz! i want to shout but haiz! sorry if today i show u all temper coz i just doesnt in the mood! haiz....such a terrible day today!!! monday , bad lesson worse of all! asshole! i dont understand at first. it get so frustrated when i dont know what to do the assignment~ haiz! sometime i get really frustrated and can cry very easily. haiz.... hope thursday BAD lesson would be better>.< please pardon me awhile and give me time to cool down! i not who i really are...i lost all my confidence now...!

许愿树 /// 4/18/2010 09:45:00 PM

Realised /// 4/16/2010 05:28:00 PM

have u wonder that u will

never know a person how they feel

when they dont speak out

when i didnt ask

when i left her/him aside

when i didnt care about her/him

when i dont know how to ask but just to sms

when i didnt try
when i didnt stand at her/him views

just being random!=)

It take more than caring
To be a real friends;
The nature of Friendship
Requires a blend
Of warmest compassion
And love deep and true
To reach and to comfort
The way that you do
Because i cna see
That your kind of friendship
Is priceless to me .

When i get back my previous resultslip. got abit scared. i wonder if my score can go poly.i heard teacher said some ppl get 3.5++ also cant go poly .haiz .my wishes is to go poly. i dont want to disappointed my parent.actually, i not condifent in myself coz i will comfirm with other ppl. i slow in learning too .thanks to my classmates helping me on study. THANKS=)haiz...i see facebook. all can go poly .i so happy for them. this second years is quite important for me. I want to work hard .dont want thing to affect me anymore.

First week ! /// 4/14/2010 08:13:00 PM

For Monday and tuesday,i went to help out in bl for the april orientation.it was not that easy.but overall was quite ok. thanks to the bl who help me along=) Today, i went to sch as per normal. First period was S&W !my favourite=). it PE! i was slightly late but end up still managed to take height and weight tgt as a class.=) haha! jia yi grow abit taller. after that,we went to gym! haha quite fun.i try out on those differ machine. haha! machine sound wrong.after that, the whole class went to cafe 2 to eat lunch. my appetite getting smaller now which i dont know also. maybe drink too much water.haha! After that, we went to ETD lesson. No exams!No attendment!No test!, No theory lesson for today!, got attendance bonus but got a project!!! After one month of holiday, i seem to be a different person. i see alot Things that reflect me. If it was my last time me, if a person said me .i will think and hurt.but for now, even a person said me. i will not think but try to rest my mind and awhile it will be ok. i will accepted it and apologise to the person even i dont know it is wrong or correct. just felt this way is better someway. haha! Another thing is if last time of me, a friend show small temper.i will give attitude and said why like that. but for now i try to cheer my friend and try to help them. it so different now . i dont know if u all notice it. For my feeling now, i just feel i miss those day whereby all my close friends are tgt. but for now i dont know what to do but just let it be natural. =D BE LIKE THIS SONG INSIDE!

Last day of funeral! /// 4/10/2010 10:59:00 PM

On friday,i went over to grandma's house to stay overnight. coz the next day have to wake up very early. i went home after my job.it was so rushed coz i have to reach the funeral before 5pm.when i reach home,brother is not back.i call his handphone.worse of all.i sms+ call him so many time.he didnt reply me..lol! end up i sms vulgar to him. my sis also call him but he didnt reply.omg....it already 4pm+ still not yet back...make my sis and i very pissed off.finally,he call and i picked up the call.i shouted at him.dont know why my temper seem to became worse nowaday.haiz..my sis also lecture me about my temper.i told her i cant control nowaday. really not in a mood.i get very agitated nowaday.haiz.want to control it but it end up burst out.my sis was so fed up and call father.father said dont wait for hbro .we go grandma's house first.end up,my bro call and said he is on the way home. it already 5pm+. my sis very fed up by my bro and we went off.coz my sis dont wanna wait for him.end up,we went off and walked to the busstop.but,i told sis want to wait for bro? sis stop forawhile and call back home.bro told us to wait for him and take taxi to grandma's house.end up, we waited for him and went to grandma's house tgt. ._.! When we reached grandma's funeral, we changed our clothes and went for chanting. it take few hours. i realised my knees abit weak. i bend down awhile and i felt so tired. after chanting.we went to eat our dinner .after that, we went to help ah gu to do sth. it was 12am+ .brother dont want to stay over and want to go home. so troublesome. end up, father have to drive my bro home. it was the first time my bro sit my father's motor.aiya, i miss the part that my bro sit on my father's bike. coz mother said the way he sit is very funny.after that,my sis and i went up to grandma's house to bath and slept aroumd 1.30am+ .my sis and i slept in the living room.the rest of my cousin went down to the funeral and sleep. it kinda werid to sleep in the living room coz there alot of people keep walked pass us. i wake up around 6.30am. so early right? ._.!I went to brush my teeth and went back to my sleep again.LOL! super tired. i realised the first day i sleep at other places .i cant sleep well. i will keep wake up and sleep again. Around 10am+, we went down the funeral for chanting . around 1.30pm, we went to the cemetery. i realised that grand father's cemetary is so near grandma's cemetary.it just a short distance away. after that, we went back to grandma's house around 5pm+. the funeral is finally over. when i went home, my mother also lecture me about my temper. i also dont know what wrong with me.i hope i dont show my temper to my frens. gonna control it.

Tired /// 4/08/2010 11:42:00 PM

i am so damn tired now. it really prove it...when i went to the funeral.i wanna hit my brother but end up hit my cousin. i feeling up and down nowaday. infront of u all,i seem ok. but when i went to funeral, my temper went bad and sometime i feel like crying but i hold it .everytime i see the ppl chanting,i stared at grandma's photo and feel like crying.it remind me of the past.haiz... sch reopen soon and i hope i can have one more week to rest at home.but it the fact that few more day sch gonna reopen. gonna spend my last day of holiday to rest.

A last smile i got from her... /// 4/06/2010 09:36:00 AM

yesterday,The phone rang at around 12am+.it was from one of the ah gu.mummy picked up the call. ah gu was telling mummy that grandma was in serious condition.After that, father was abit frustrated and said "so late ler go hospital...u tmr got work lei....dont go."mummy dont know what to said and went to toilet.i told her if u want go ,i accompany u. she looked confused.After that,both of them was shouting.i went out the bedroom and told father.of course la is mummy's mother that why she want to go.End up mummy didnt go hospital.The phone rang again.this time round father picked up the call.she told ah gu that mummy is not coming down and the reason why.end up,i went to sleep again.they two was like in a debate in the bedroom.._.! Around 1am+ ,the phone rang.this time was really very serious ler....grandma passed away.After that,i lie at my bed.i cant sleep.it like around 2am+.my jie jie cant sleep too.she so random and said where did grandma go after that?i answer heaven.
hope she gonna be allright! i rewind and think back eversince the first visit to hospital ,that was the last smile i got from her.i will always remember it my ah ma!i seem to be a bad person coz i only visit her for once.sorry.

i found this song last time .it was quite old.but i find it meaningful.

Have you ever been hurt so bad
That you thought that you would die
Have your had to hold back tears
When you just wanted to cry
Have you ever had to hear the truth
And try to keep a smile
Have you ever had so much to say
That you just ran out of time
Nothing hurts more than when you're saying goodbye
You're left feeling lonely with pain you feel inside
The heart keeps aching and you feel a little fragile
Cause nothing hurts, nothing hurts, like goodbye
Ever wish you can turn back time
Find More lyrics at www.sweetslyrics.com
And live your life again
Have you ever wanted one more chancev To right all your regrets
Wish the rain could was away tears
And wash away the hurt
Cause pushing thoughts to the back of your head
It doesn't seem to work
Nothing hurts more than when you're saying goodbye
Your heart keeps breaking and you feel a little fragile
Cause nothing hurts, no nothing hurts, like goodbye

Like goodbye

goodbye ah ma!<3

Memories!=) /// 4/01/2010 01:19:00 AM

Time fly so fast! one weeks more and my holiday gonna end.Second years of ITE is arriving soon.i not really excited about it because there JAVA.The module that i will stress at T_T. After first years of studying in ITE,i realised ALOT of thing.i learn alot too.Even though the first year seem to be Up and DoWn but i still enjoyed it.i never regret to come ITE.i lucky to be in PB0904K because that where i met alot of nice classmates.haha!=)
i still remember the first day coming to ite,the first i met is celia.we will always keep laughing for dont konw what reason.haha! that was the memorable time. after that,i think i knew ivy and joelle.they two know each other before hand ler but haha i also forgot how i met them.slowly i met vann too. and slowly the rest of the class.haha!
o..i still remember the first outing with celia,ivy and joelle is KBOX.haha!that time was quite fun even though i didnt know each other that well.but was quite fun and i remember we even took a photo .i still remember they all dont believe me i wear skinny jeans..haha! i got so song meh?ARGH>.< haha!
I miss level 3 of IT block whereby there a foods stall. wahahaha! 5 of us always go down there during our break to enjoy our breakfast!haha!
Still remember we always do library duty...we always meet each other at the near library chair.No matter who late,we were wait for each there and go in tgt.haha!

The first birthday was joelle au.i remember it was at kbox.we even brought cake with cream only + some decoration on the cake by us.o ya her rabbit bag!haha! cute cute one^_^ haha! Nearby her birthday,she said her bag kana mouse eat....then ivy and i was laughing and even said let the mouse eat bigger so the hole get bigger.haha so bad oh...coz we brought joelle a bag ler.haha! we celebrate her birthday at kbox.o ya i remember that time we went kbox,we even won a jar of coke! haha1 at first i thought is can ler...>.<LOL!i still remember celia and i cut the sponge to make the shape of"HAPPY BIRTHDAY" if i not wrong...the sponge flew all over..haha!that was for joelle au birthday card....

THAT DAY WAS FUN!

The second birthday is ivy. i remember we do a sketchbook for her..haha!A sketchbook full of photo ...and messages...celia so pro..she was the one decorate the pages ....i remember i even go learn how to draw doremon>.< coz i no ideas what to put for the coverpage..haha!...just so suddenly thought of that....i know doremon not that nicely draw but atleast i try my best..haha!i still remember i went around to ask them around the sch to write wishes...i know it so obvious haha! but aiya who care..LOL!=)

erm ya the birthday celebration was at KBOX too..LOL!we brought snowspray! wakkaa dont konw what it call._.....we spary on her...quite fun la..i accidently spray until mouth..lol haha sry ar... after that,we bring her go justacia to eat dinner coz there where all vietnam friends are....o ya her present was bag too.....haha!...

THAT DAY WAS FUN!

The third birthday is MINE!i remember before my birthday ,we went out but i forgot where...vann said she not coming...argh..i was abit disappointed but joking said then we will be firends by today oh..haha! jk=)

but suprise she came..

my birthday celebration no aircon ler....guess what?not kbox ler...it zoo=) quite a good ideas coz even since K1 or K2 i go only..haha !i didnt know they bring me go zoo until i see the bus board...one big words "ZOO"

haha! they pay for my ticket...thanks girls...coz was quite broke at that moment....erm so went to tour around zoo....haha! i remember the photo we took with the parrot!haha!

ivy,li see, me,joelle,celia=)

haha they even told me to hang it on my neck and tour around the zoo..i did it leh..haha...inside was full of photo and each of them messages=)o ya..and the jar of stars! damn FREAKING love it...haha! i remember i went back home was to unfold all the star that is shiny one...coz that contain message written by the class and vietnam friends...haha! most HAPPY is vann suprise me...haha quite shocked she came for dinner...hahaa!thanks oh! girl! love it! The most memorable birthday celebration i have...ever since i young....my parent dont celebrate my birthday eversince i young...so everytime birthday..it seem noting.....haha!

The forth birthday is celia....o i remember her birthday we fold thousand of swarm....haha so funny is we even fold it during our lesson time...amanda and pei ling even help us fold..haha so nice of them=)i rememeber we even poke hole to each swarm so to put it in the string...haha! we did this at library...haha! after folding,we even have to think of putting it at where....haha! A big box!=) haha! super big ...enough to put books inside lor..haha! wonder how joelle help celia carry home...lol....we brought her two cute cute shirt^^o...ya and make a small book in a shape of ...what that call...haha ._. nvm...i suddenly forget what it call..haha! it was so cute lor...haha!we wnet to toy museum on that day coz celia love soft toy!haha!.....hope she enjoy it...

THAT DAY WAS FUN!

The fifth birthday is vann....her birthday was pretty special..we bake cupcakes cfor her oz she love it!...lol..we even went to rsearch on the ingrediant need to bake cupcakes...that was the time i knew so many thing about baking._. lol! so many different ingrediant that i dont know which is which ...haha! we went to celia house tobake it.....erm we bake until quite late..haha!.....the next day ,we call mr victor to keep for us the box of cupcake..haha!....nice teacher oh!=)went back for normal lesson..until the end....we wnet rushing to light all the cupcakes with candles...and suprise it to vann..haha! sh was happy..next,went to pastamania for dinner.she dont konw we plan whole go pastamania...haha it was a surprise for her...we even give her a voucher for her birthday...

THAT DAY WAS FUN!
i really can remember so many thing oh...suprising right?haha! all of it was the happy one...the sad one have slowly fade away from my mind and keeping the happy one=)
BRAND NEW START OF SECOND YEARS....GONNA ENJOY IT.......STUDY HARD AND HAPPY EVERYDAY=)
love u all my BUDDIES!♥
my longer post sia la !